I sent my middle child to a boarding school, deep in the bowels of the English countryside, when she was of a tender
single-digit age. One doesn’t make such a
decision without carefully consideration, but the reasons, while
complicated, were compelling and I have no regrets. She will have her
whole life to ruminate upon it, and blame me. But what doesn’t kill
you, often makes you stronger, and as a result of her experience, she
has become very strong indeed.
Most parents
blithely have positively distorted images of their children. I’m no
exception, but I won’t digress further because I have a point to
make. This child was wilful, playful, and mischievous. Boarding
schools for adolescents necessarily have lots of rules, for more or
less everything, and children have equally numerous ways to break
them. Sweets. Phones. Reading time. Bedtime. Evening movements. Study
time. Music Practice. Treatment of others, all have rules. For
whatever reason, mine was involved in almost every transgression, and
prank. They got away with lots: hiding prohibited sweets in the
ceiling tiles, using night lights under their covers to read when
lights were out, or pranking overly-severe matrons . But clever and
precocious as they are, experienced minders don’t miss much, so
she was caught. Frequently. Sometimes as inspired leader, but most
often as co-conspirator. And we’d get the inevitable call from her,
or the school, that she’s been caught (again) doing ABC and as a
result will be punished by XYZ. Here is my point, and one that
expresses my strong admiration of her: whenever she was “caught”
and was guilty, in whatever capacity – either as leader or
co-conspirator – while her mates typically denied responsibility,
she quite courageously and stoically accepted responsibility and
subsequent punishment. No whining or whingeing. Not defiant, not overly contrite. She knew the rules. She knew she was breaking them. She knew the consequences. Just courageous mature admission - an integrity that earned
not just my respect, but that of her interlocutors, and gave her a
legendary reputation amongst her more cowardly peers. Greasy readers might
think her stupid, but despite her frequent mischief, she had the
strongest sense of justice and fairness (unsurprising raised as she was in a
Rawlsian household). When, from time to time, she was unjustly accused or punished, or
witnessed others similarly suffering, she became fearsome and would
march into the Head’s office (or the Head’s wife) and
passionately plead her case, or those of others. So strong was her
character and sense of justice, that when she saw others being
bullied – whether or not her friends were the bullies or irrespective of whether she
disliked the bullied, she would intervene. She has retained this
courageous awesomeness into university, yet this trait sits in a
blind spot of her consciousness. She doesn’t try to be this way –
she just IS this way.
This brings me to the “Alt-Right”, exemplified presently by
James Alex Fields, Jr. now infamous for ploughing his vehicle into a
crowd of counter-protestors, injuring many and killing a young woman.
He has pleaded “not guilty” and disingenuously claims to have
driven over counter-protesters “in fear” (or so is the absurd
claim of his defense strategy). For on that day in Charlottesville,
the facts are indisputable as to who arrived with their own heavily
armed militia. There is no revisionist version of this history.
Fields, Jr. is a coward. Fields Jr. is pussy. He is a coward and a
pussy because he refuses to accept responsibility for actions, or
acknowledge – without weasel words – the beliefs that drove him
to his actions. Deeds without consequences. He epitomizes the
cowardliness of the alt-right, and both their apologists and
sympathizers who, to avoid the moral revulsion of the overwhelming
majority of fellow citizens and its practical consequences – both
in the marketplace and under the law - also refuse to explicitly,
wholly, own their own dogma and sentiments. There are few other words
for it.
And when I see this
fully grown, mature man, with strong ideas and beliefs, make a plea
of “not guilty” for an undeniably objective action seen by all,
that had mortal consequence, I think back to my daughter, who at age
nine, standing accused, for something she knew she was guilty
of, had the integrity NOT to lie in order to avoid culpability. Her
morals and integrity were clear. Fields, Jr. and the Alt-Right? Not
so much.